No one pours new wine into old wineskins – Mark 2:22

Unless you have GOALS, it is impossible to manage your time EFFECTIVELY. – From the book 7 strategies for Wealth and Happiness by Jim Rohn

Where ever you are, let’s make this decade personal.

Not take it personally, but make it personal.

Every call, conference, or conversation this decade make sure you have a journal or the notepad on your phone available to take notes.

Make it a personal quest to find the lessons which unlock your blessings.

IF I DO NOT GO WITHIN I GO WITHOUT

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Who do you love unconditionally?

Knowing who they are.

Knowing that as a human, they will be human, and their choices will offend you.

Stop what you are doing, grab your pencil and journal.

Create a quick list of names.

Person by person, who do you love unconditionally?

Let’s write 5 names of people who we are fully capable of loving unconditionally.

Let’s get these criteria RIGHT.

IF THE PERSON THAT YOU are thinking about ONE of the names on your list

Lied

Does your unconditional love change?

Stole from you

Does your unconditional love change?

Betrayed your families values

Does your unconditional love change?

What if this person you love unconditionally over eats, so they are overweight, and they have the health issues that follow that course of living

Does your unconditional love change?

What if they go to prison at eighteen for a crime they did commit

Does your unconditional love change?

What if this person you love unconditionally while being disciplined curses you out, hits your spouse, and spits in your face literally.

Does your unconditional love change?

WE ALL HAVE SOMEONE we LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.

WE ALL UNDERSTAND HOW impactful Unconditional Love is

WHY DON’T WE love OURSELVES despite the conditions?

WHY

Are we not deserving of that unconditional love?

Are we not WORTHY of that unconditional love?

One of the problems I will solve within myself this YEAR is that I will love my neighbor as myself.

When we hear that phrase, LOVE your NEIGHBOR as YOURSELF.

The focus tends to always be on the word neighbor, the external when the focus should be on the word self the internal.

If you do not go WITHIN you GO WITHOUT

What must you solve by first going within?

Take a small moment and think about that.

What must you solve by first going within?

Do you really not know how to manage money?

Or

Do you need to address the NEED to impress others?

Do you really not know how to live in the body of your dreams?

Or

Do you need to address that food is utilized like a drug by you it gets you high and makes you temporarily forget the pain

Do you really need the attention of other women besides your wife or fiancé?

Or

Is there a part of you that is so insecure that talking to other women, secret rendezvous,
sliding in DMS,
secret meetups,
and cheat ups
distract you from solving the inward issues that make you feel insecure.

If you don’t go within

You go without

Six figures One hundred thousand dollars or more

Seven figures One million dollars or more

You can love yourself enough to solve money for you and those you love unconditionally forever.

BUT

It starts with learning the language of money
the purpose of money
meeting all financial obligations with integrity and love
It requires being generous while finding ways to save
THESE ARE all things that are solved by harmonizing your inner climate to the abundance that money will bring.

I have seen transformation after transformation.

Breakthrough after Breakthrough by FIRST going within

I have had to learn to LOVE myself so deeply that I no longer have to challenge the disrespectful people that show up.

I simply adjust the part of me that attracted those relationships in the first place.

We started this conversation talking unconditional love.

We shared that if applied to you first your needs
your desires then and only then can you fulfill

Loving your neighbor as yourself

YOU WANT to love your wife more

Love yourself more

You want to be a Better Father.

Love yourself more

You want to be a more effective Business Leader.

Love yourself more

You want to increase your impact and leave a Legacy.

Schedule

YOU TIME ON YOUR CALENDAR

FOR PRAYER
FOR MEDITATION
FOR LONG PRIVATE WALKS
FOR FITNESS
FOR AFFIRMATIONS
FOR JOURNALING
FOR SELF CARE

GO WITHIN, OR YOU WILL GO WITHOUT!

WE ATTRACT OUR LACK

WITH A LACK OF SELF LOVE

WE ATTRACT OUR BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS

WITH OUR LACK OF SELF LOVE

IF YOU FEEL UNWORTHY YOU ARE UNWORTHY

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE SOLVES THE WORTH PROBLEM

AND WHEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE WORTH IT

ACHIEVING the LIFE, YOU ENVISIONED WITH PASSION AND VIGOR BECOMES AS SEAMLESS AS BREATHING.

Here are three things you can do to Champion Self Love while envisioning a better future

Number 1

Sleep

Without Quality Sleep

You are giving only minimal effort.

I said what I said

Simple Yes, but it’s the first area most of us will ignore

I can’t sleep my way to being wealthy.

I can’t sleep my way to being a better Father.

I can’t sleep my way to leveling up as a Husband.

Can you do any of those things to the best of your abilities while sleep-deprived?

Your results might be impacted by the simple truth that you are not giving yourself the space to get quality sleep.

As you create a sleep schedule that supports your lifestyle, you will be able to be fully present at work, as a parent, and as a partner.

Quality Sleep enhances Productivity.

If someone you LOVED needed to rest and get 6 to 9 hours of deserved rest.

If this was someone, you LOVED unconditionally.

Would you create a way for them to get that rest?

If your answer is YES, start with yourself.

Number 2

Self Care

I went to get a massage a week ago.

While my ankle was being soothed, stretched, and aligned, I could feel the over one hundred miles I had recently run on that ankle being coaxed into a deeper state of healing.

As my limbs and joints where being stretched, a state of deep inner wellness returned.

That massage awakened me to the reality that many men USE perversion, pornography, and other unproductive means of instant gratification to solve a deeper need.

The need to be touched.

We feed every one of our senses daily.

Taste
Smell
Sight
Sound

But TOUCH

Most men are dying inside from a lack of touch.

Feed the need for touch

Put a monthly massage in the self-care budget.

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Yes Sex is touch it’s Physical, but it’s not the only touch that feeds that need

Massages
Hugs
Holding Hands
Cuddling

Self-Care allows you space to budget and plan for your needs being consistently met.

Meeting your needs is Going within, so you do not have to Go without

Number 3

Silence

You will have to block time on your calendar to be available and alone.

Yes, I know that many of you FEAR that alone time.

That time with just you and your thoughts

No music
No work
No Busy-ness

Without time for silence

You won’t plan effectively
You won’t execute efficiently
You won’t lead impactfully

For some of us

silence is

Meditation

Walks alone to reflect

It could be sitting in front of the fireplace early in the morning while no one is awake.

Your need for silence and hearing your thoughts is breakthrough territory.

For over a decade, I struggled to cultivate the inner peace that comes from practicing silence.

I could close my eyes and see war.
I could see childhood trauma.
I could hear the echo of generational curses.

As I stuck with the silence and the practice of meditation

I remembered what was there before the war, before the childhood trauma, before the reckless choices of an undisciplined adult.

I found that I already knew how to LOVE MYSELF with no conditions.

That kind of love unconditional love can be used to BUILD ANYTHING.

A MARRIAGE
A HOME
A BUSINESS
A FRIENDSHIP

I COULD CLEARLY SEE that without that unconditional self-love.

I WOULD REPEAT OLD HABITS
I would relive past hurts
I would revisit past mistakes

If I don’t go within I, go without

For this to be my most abundant decade, I have to be prepared for the journey. This will require adequate sleep, self-care, and silence. Measuring these three areas allows me to see if I am growing or hiding.

ARE YOU GROWING, or ARE YOU HIDING?

Are you still afraid to Lead?

Are you still spreading tainted love versus unconditional love?

This is a new Decade.

This is a New Year

Can you love enough to let go

Of what’s not working
Of broken relationships
Of the need to be right
Of who hurt you and who you hurt

Can you focus within so profoundly that in
LOVING YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY you birth
breakthrough after breakthrough and arrive at
every dream,
every goal,
and every destination you desire to reach this DECADE?

by @BernardBergan

 

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